A previous job I was at made you think that it wrong to hug a child. Too many hugs gave the child a false sense of home. HUH?! Seriously? A HUG! A symbol of affection, admiration and care. There is nothing wrong with a hug. And then we went to 'side hugs', the very impersonal side hug. Have these people never been hugged a huge, strong, and loving bear hug from a friend or loved one? We might be looking at some hug therapy!
There are two types of hugs in MY humble opinion. A hug between a husband and wife, and all other hugs. For myself and with most people, the later hug is never associated with anything sexual. I believe that people that believe this way are very damaged. And let me tell you, I am damaged but not to this point. I don't look at the bad side of things, I look for the good. If that is naive of me, I would chose naivety rather than questioning people's motives and second guessing people's actions. I strongly abhor that other people's perceptions are their reality and they feel they must gossip about things they know nothing about. I am sad for these, very sad, that they have to imagine things happening between good people. I hate that we have to be so overly cautious about everything, so somebody doesn't read it wrong. But we are in the corrupt generation that doesn't believe that anything can be pure and simple.
I will continue down my path and hugs will be an essential part of my being and part of my life. I raised both of my boys and all my day care children with lots of hugs. Hugs for good morning and good night, good behavior, hugs for disappointment and hugs AND rocks for boo boos. I refuse to change ME because of others. I think I have more to offer than second guessing others actions and I just don't have the time to take care of others business.
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Congratulations on the weight loss!!! Has it been hard for you? So many people I know really have a hard time with the surgery.
Love you
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